Question of the day.

Hi people! πŸ™‚

What would be the absolute worst name you could give your child?

My answer:

Well, it depends on so many things, in my opinion. It depends on whether we are talking objectively what is the worst (most harmful) way of naming a baby, or rather the worst way of choosing a name for your baby, or subjectively which name I dislike the most. If we’re talking about the latter, just as I know lots of beautiful names that I love and could give my children, I’ve also learnt about lots of names from all sorts of cultures that I intensely dislike and it’s hard to pick just one that I would dislike the most and think that it’s the absolute worst. If we’re talking about the former, I think there are lots of ways to do it wrong, but then even when we’d try to look at it objectively everyone has so different values and opinions when it comes to ochoosing a name. And there are so many names out there that I’ve heard about over the years and would have never thought in the past that anyone coould ever use, yet people do use them. Shooter, Lucifer, Legia (as in Polish football team Legia-Warsaw, or at least I’ve heard about a daddy wanting to call her daughter this, but I don’t know if he succeeded with our back then quite strict naming laws), Google, Brfxxccxxmnpcccclllmmnprxvclmnckssqlbb11116 pronounced as Albin, or A, also pronounced as Albin (an “artistic” creation of Swedish parents Lasse Diding and Elisabeth Hallin, though the boy didn’t get named either in the end, but was nameless for some six years instead), or some eccentric Puritan names like Silence, which are all quite extreme examples of really bad ways of naming your child. But it’s hard to pick the worst, really. Then there are people like my Mum who flinch at every normal name they’d never heard onn a real person when they first hear of it being used on a baby. Recently our distant relatives called their baby boy Noe (Noah in English) and while Noah is very popular in the US, Noe is not so much in Poland, even though the N as a first letter is quite a trendy theme at the moment in my view, although a bit more for the girls, and Biblical boy names have been ruling for a while, and short names have been getting a lot of attention as well. The reason for Noe not being in favour is probably that it ends in -e, while it’s rather uncommon (and may feel unnatural for many people) for a masculine Polish name to end with a vowel other than -i or -y. I don’t know any guys called Noe personally. Anyways, my Mum told me that in a very horrified, indignant voice, and when I said “So what? Noe isn’t a usual name, but I don’t see anything wrong with it if they like it so much”, she was even more horrified and like: “But how will they call him, in normal life, every day?! Ark? There’s no nickname for Noe!”. Oh yes, that’s such a dilemma! But Poles like their nicknames. My Mum’s name is Anna, short enough, right? But no one calls her Anna, just as hardly any other Annas are just Annas. A Polish Anna usually automatically goes by Ania, unless she’s prepared for a life-long battle of correcting everyone. I love the name Anna so much but Ania is so superficial and bland. So I said that nicknames are only a matter of creativity, at least in our language, you have pretty much endless possibilities, and after all there are no rules that one nickname works with only one name, no one said at all that your nickname has to be related to your birth name. So if he likes to go by Ark indeed, why the heck can’t he? I’m sure it’s better to be the only Noe in school than the 30th Jakub, especially that the name is – like most Polish names – very straightforward in spelling, declination and what not, so should not be overly stigmatising or burdening unless he keeps bumping into such strange judgy people like my Mum. πŸ˜€ Or yesterday Sofi told us that there’s a boy called Michael in her school. The Polish version of Michael is MichaΕ‚, and Michael on a Polish person certainly would feel a tad pretentious to most Polish people (including myself) because the spelling is not in-line with our phonetics, because we have our own native form of the name and despite it’s now legal to use names from foreign cultures with non-phonetical spellings, it’s still a new thing and generally it tends to be a bit of an informal naming rule for most people still not to use names from different cultures if we have a native equivalent or if that foreign name doesn’t adapt well to the language. And the boy doesn’t seem to have foreign roots or anything. So my Mum rolled her eyes and was like: “Really…? He’s Michael! I thought they were such normal people!”. πŸ˜€ So, as you see, it often doesn’t take much to shock people, even though I personally think that, while I would never call my child Michael in Poland and while it is a bit pretentious, it’s not harmful or somehow really stigmatising in a major way.

So, let’s just talk about what I would try to do or avoid doing when naming my potential baby, some rules that I would stick to, not necessarily about my personal style as such but more like to simply make sure that my child’s name will be at least bearable to them to live with for their entire life.

I would avoid names that feel dated and not ready for a comeback yet, so names that are typical for either my generation or the generation of my parents, because by the time my child would go to school or something, it’s likely that the name would feel cringey to their peers if it was massively popular in, say, the 90’s and then has become much less popular so that it’s associated with the 90’s very strongly and is more common among the mums or dads. I’d also try to avoid names that would seem “seasonal” to me. Ones that get a lot of usage in a short while and then quickly fall downwards in popularity to never come back again.

Unless the child would have some foreign heritage in close family, I would not use a name that could be difficult to spell here, because Polish is a phonetic language and almost everything is spelled as it’s said. It wouldn’t necessarily have to be a known Polish name though, for example my long-time favourite for a potential baby girl is Saskia. And I’ve just looked through the popularity list for the whole Polish population and couldn’t find the name Saskia there at all, so if there are any Saskias here there is less than 100 of them. yet still it ends with an -a, as a proper, traditional Polish feminine noun should, and poses no pronunciation or spelling dilemmas. I think, like most people, I’d be in that category of parents who want something unique but not too qree8tyv.

I have nothing against people using unisex names, but it’s not a thing here, and that’s probably part of why I am not a big enthusiast of them myself, with some exceptions. But I would definitely try to avoid unisex names, or at least those that are rather similarly often used for both genders, I would mind much less names like Evelyn (which is an adorable name) which use on males is pretty much historical from what i know. If I’d want to use a word name, in Polish I’d probably never do it at all because there are only few traditionally used word names and the idea is still very new. If I were to use an English word name, I’d likely use it for a middle, especially if it’s a frequently used word, or has some very specific associations. Though the word names category is very broad, I guess even Jack could count, and I think there’s absolutely nothing wrong with using names like that as they’re well known as names and very normal. My long-time word name favourite is Hyacinth, and I’d be also happy to use that, and surprisingly, on either gender. But that would only be if I lived in an English-speaking country.

Because I believe in that name & personality thing as you probably know, and I would really hate to give my child a name that wouldn’t miss their personality, I would be careful with using family/honour names. Of course honouring someone is a great thing, but I want my child to have an identity of his own, so I would never give him a first and middle name of his grandad, rather, I’d use first name of his one grandad and second of the other. And I’d never do things like promising someone ahead of time, before seeing my baby, that I’ll name my baby after them for sure. Generally I think I would want to have some names prepared before the child’s arrival but I would not make a definite decision before seeing the child and spending some time with them, I must get a feel of them, I don’t want them to be conflicted internally. If there was a tradition in my family of using family names from generation to generation (which there sort of is because me and my siblings, my Dad and all his siblings all have middle names after our parents), I’d break this tradition if I thought that the name would clash with my kid.

What would be the worst name/way of naming for you? πŸ™‚


16 thoughts on “Question of the day.”

  1. Old lady/man names- Betty, Enid, Eunice, Enoch, Henry, Eugene.
    The idgets who actually named their baby Hashtag.

    I named mine Briarly Rain and am very happy with it. Very goth metal but also just a pretty name and she won’t be one of six kids in class with the same first name.

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    1. I like a lot of vintage/retro names but these you mentioned feel too dated to me too and I dislike all of them.
      Hashtag… ew, poor kid! :/
      Oh yeah, I guess I’ve already mentioned that I like your daughter’s name a lot and I think it flows really well! πŸ™‚

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      1. We also call her Whinerly Pain when she is being a butt but they wouldn’t put that on the birth certificate πŸ˜›

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  2. Silence? How would Silence reply if someone said, “Hey, Silence!” Would she say, “Yes?” Or would she remain, well… silent? What a mindbender!

    I think the best way to name a baby is to give a unique name that isn’t a word like silence that could cause confusion. And it can’t be so unique that it’s spelled wrong, like Abcde, or that long list of characters you said is pronounced “A”! I think a unique name is fine as long as it’s not bizarrely spelled or misinterpreted. For example, I have a few names I’d love to give a little girl. Thyona, Gardinia, Zelda, etc. I also, though, wouldn’t give a kid a name that’s a shortened spelling of a common name, like Lisbeth instead of Elizabeth. There seems to be an odd connotation of low intelligence on the naming parents’ part when they go all “cutesy” like that. I also don’t like obvious and deliberate misspellings, like Aliviyah or Khrystyne. Names like those look sort of unintelligent ’cause they’re spelled wrong, and the child will struggle to understand reading and spelling when their own name is all mixed up. (Like in Aliviyah, the letter combination “iy” NEVER occurs in the English language, like anywhere, at all. And the Kh in Khrystyne (not to mention the overuse of Y’s) is highly irregular. Aside from khaki, not many words do it. As a former reading teacher, I HATE to see my language get butchered. So I think originality is okay (like Thyona) but getting crazy with spelling is just dreadful!

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    1. Well yeah, that was what I thought when I first heard about the name Silence, it certainly can’t have a good impact on a person when she’s constantly silenced like that.
      I love Zelda very much, and Gardinia is sweet too.
      I don’t like misspellings like that either, and they look unintellectual to me as well, at least with such names that do have a straightforward, or at least traditional spelling. There are some names that I do like in a different spelling than the way they’re usually spelled but they’re rather exceptions to the rule, and I probably wouldn’t use them on a child in any circumstances because they’d have just too much spelling trouble.
      I guess the iy combination may be getting more common, since Asian names like Aaliyah, Kaliyah, Safiyah seem to be more popular also with non-Asian people in Anglophone countries, so it will probably result in more and more Alivyahs, Sophiyahs or Ameliyahs too, but iy really looks odd in English and I don’t like it at all either when people are brutal with their own languages like that.

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  3. I actually love the word “silence”, although I would never use it as a real name. I had it as my first nickname on LiveJournal though (Silence1986 to be exact).

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    1. I do like the word silence too. I like its meaning and the way it sounds, and, judging just by the sound, it could even make a cool name, a lot of Puritan names sound good in my opinion, but work much worse in practice on real people. I could see Silence work on a fictional character though.

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  4. I believe the worst way of naming your child would be with no thought behind it because that would start their life with little love. As for the name itself, there’s no telling what it will be for them, they will know on their journey.

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    1. I so agree, naming needs thinking, a lot of thinking. I always feel so sad when I hear stories about people whose parents just went with the first name they heard after the baby’s birth, or who decided on something very common just because there are more important things than a name. Of course there are more important things, but I think it deserves some attention because it’s going to stick with a person for a long time, likely their entire life.

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