Question of the day.

What makes you instantly lose respect for someone?

My answer:

First off, I try not to lose respect for people. I believe that this is something we all have an unconditional right to due to the fact that we’re humans. At the same time though, because we’re humans, we’re flawed, and having respect for everyone can be difficult. I may find it very hard to show respect to someone if they seem very deliberately rude and jerky and cocky, this really irks me, or if I know that they can be cruel, or do things that I consider totally morally unacceptable, or don’t seem to make a good use of their brains despite there not seeming to be any major obstacles for them to do it, or when people are simply disrespectful of me or my beliefs or opinions or values, either trying to aggressively shove theirs down my brain, I suppose in an attempt to convince me that theirs are objectively superior or something, or ridiculing my perspective based on stereotypes or some one-sided view they have. I mean, it’s obviously totally okay to try to make someone see their perspective, to discuss things, even fiercely discuss things, and I try to be flexible-minded and when I hear about something someone believes in that is new or illogical or crazy or just not right for me I try to put myself in their shoes and think of what might appeal to them in it, just out of curiosity. But when it gets aggressive, I feel like it’s no longer fair play because I try my best to be respectful, and the other side doesn’t, so it feels like the only way to go is either for me to get down to their level and kick them back, which I’m usually not the one to do and which would probably end up in a proper fight or something, and respect would be difficult not to lose in the meantime, or stop playing with them and go home play with Misha. Still, I’ll try my best to respect people regardless. I don’t think there has been anyone I’d know that I could say I have NO respect for. In any case, even when I struggle with this, it hasn’t ever happened that I’d lose respect for someone instantly. I suppose they’d have to do something really really atrocious that my brain just wouldn’t be able to cope with.

How about you? 🙂

6 thoughts on “Question of the day.”

  1. If I lose respect for someone, it’s usually not in the sense that you’re talking about, but in the sense of the first definition that Google gives: “a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements.” That’s usually based on things that are contrary to my values.

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    1. Oh yeah! Good thing you mention that. I was talking to Sofi about the kind of respect I wrote about in the post and forgot about this other definition, but yes, I think it’s more likely for me too to lose this kind of respect that you mention. And it most often would also have to do with values.

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  2. Hmm…. instantly losing respect for someone would require the person to… hmm… well, it happens with me when I hit a wall that I can’t get past. Like if I’m talking to customer service and they accuse me (however indirectly) of being an identity thief, and they won’t let me try to convince them of otherwise, even though I know which purchases I’ve made, etc., etc. Typically things go wrong after that point. AAUGH!!

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  3. I agree that respect is an unconditional right.When someone rubs me the wrong way, I respect them by walking away so I can better understand where they may be. Who knows if they’re dealing with five minutes, five years or five days ago. Everyone deserves time and space ( to each their own amount) to figure things out.

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