Question of the day.

What are some productive ways to let your anger out?

My answer:

For me, writing usually helps a lot. Other times, I like to listen to music which corresponds with my mood, so when I’m angry it’s either some rock, Finnish works the best in such cases, or anything that I can find relatable at a given moment, either because of the lyrics or something else that resonates with the way I’m feeling. Sofi’s here as I’m writing this and I asked her what she likes to do to let her anger out in a productive way, and she says she likes to watch a movie and eat. When I’m super angry, I’m usually quite overwhelmed at the same time and I find it difficult to focus on things like books, let alone movies, which I always find difficult to focus on, even with the best audiodescription, unless I seriously have some extreme interest in a specific movie. But I can totally relate to eating. šŸ˜€ As much as I can’t eat when I’m stressed or anxious, especially when it’s a short-term but intense anxiety, with anger, I like to eat something yummy to make myself feel better. I don’t know how healthy/productive it actually is though, as people say you shouldn’t do that, but it’s not like I binge-eat or like I do it very regularly or can’t cope without it. I’ve written here a lot that my anger is turned inwards most of the time, as my default setting is to repress things, and when I no longer can, I’ve learnt to deal with it by self-harming. I still have urges to do it a lot of the time when I’m angry or just overwhelmed with any other unpleasant feeling(s), and sometimes I’m successful at overcoming them, but sometimes I’m still not. What I like to do instead of self-harming when I’m feeling angry, and what I’ve liked to do from the beginning ever since I started cutting, when I didn’t want to cut myself too much so that it wouldn’t be easily visible to people, is to eat something very hot and spicy. It’s weird how well it can work sometimes. Otherwise, I guess the pretty much classic strategy for dealing with self-harm urges is holding ice cubes in your hands for some time, and I’ve always hard a weird love for ice, so when we have some, I do that too.

How about you? šŸ™‚


14 thoughts on “Question of the day.”

  1. Music definitely and I do love how the same song has a different meaning to me depending on my mood. For many years, I fought as a way for stress relief and there were times when the anger or frustration of the day/week/month was built up and I would let it out. My trainer was always quick to point out that I lose focus and get sloppy when I let my emotions run amuck. I used to sit in a dark corner in silence and breathe, but since the tinnitus started there is never silence. So I guess what I do now, if anger does happen to get the better of me, is deep breathing exercises. The negative emotions (anger, hatred, jealousy, etc.) really only hurt me as the obnoxious, unskilled truck driver that nearly caused an accident does not feel moved in the slightest by my shaking fist and twisted cursing mouth. I just end up with a headache and a cramp in my jaw.

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  2. For me, alone time is the best when I need to get my anger out, as it also gives me a chance to take a step back and reflect on things. Thanks for sharing!

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  3. I have on-going anger ‘issues’ due to (I’m told anyway) PTSD. So I’m willing to try anything to alleviate the episodes. I live alone now, but when hubby was alive, I’d simply get away from him or the cause of the anger by going for a long drive. Listening to music as I went. That’s still my go-to for times I’m really angry. I also have been known to send flaming emails to a certain source of continued irritation in my current life. Not mature of me at all, but it sure helps!

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    1. I can see how a long drive could be very helpful and cathartic. I find that anger is probably the most difficult emotion to deal with in a productive and mature way that is actually effective.


  4. I used to take out anger by writing but I discovered that helped me return to positive without releasing any emotions. Now, I close my door and sit in front of a mirror and let myself rant with as much emotions as I need to let out. I stay conscious that I sound awful and irrational for the purpose of facing what I don’t want to hold onto. It feels good and it helps me to know that I only need myself to work through my obstacles and that it’s okay to ride negativity to get back to positivity.

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  5. Oh my gosh, I loved Sofi’s answer! I’m sort of the same way… FOOD!! Pass the food!! Yeah, I don’t think I have any actually healthy ways of processing anger…? I mean, let’s put it this way: I read your question and laughed out loud. Not at the question! [Eyeroll.] But at the futility of my having a decent answer! HA HA HA HA HA! Oh gee. I’m still working on it! šŸ˜€

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      1. At least I’m not guilty of committing defenestration! šŸ˜€ HA HA HA HA! Oh my. Well, there might be a first time at some future point. One wonders! šŸ˜€

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