Question of the day.

What was the last thing that made you feel misunderstood?

My answer:

Since I have that thing called AVPD, I feel misunderstood a lot of the time. I don’t really even like admitting that because to me it sounds kind of as if I were so entitled in a way and expecting people to understand me and/or considering myself so exceptional that no one can even begin to get me if they try and how I’m oh so devastated because no one understands me. It’s not really like that, because on the other hand, like I wrote in a post about being understood by people perhaps a month or so ago, I don’t think I even want everyone to understand me because it would be creepy. Still, when you have more of a relationship with someone and you feel like they don’t understand you on a lot of, often quite crucial to you, things, it’s quite an alienating experience. I felt quite strongly disconnected from my family during the Easter holidays, but what currently happens to be bothering me the most in the misunderstanding department is my earlier exchange with someone, and I just keep ruminating about how I surely must have said something that wasn’t what I meant exactly and how, because of that, our friendship is already ruined beyond repair before it even had a chance to start developing.

You? 🙂

11 thoughts on “Question of the day.”

  1. I can’t think of a specific example, but I think most of the time we are all only partially understood, at best. Understanding depends on communication, and there are many things that could get in the way. I might not be able to think of a word to properly describe how I feel, so I use the best word that I can think of. But for someone else, that word might have certain connotations from situations they’ve been in before when that word was used, so that word, even though it has the same meaning, might have a very different feel for each of us. It would be nice if people close to us understood us better, but it doesn’t always seem to work out that way.

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  2. I chastised my kid for backtalking me at the family Easter thing and my mom jumped to the conclusion that I am overly critical of Spook. I am just trying to set boundaries but my mom does not get it.

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  3. Oh my, you don’t seem that way to me at all!! I’m so sad that people hear about avoidance and think that!!

    Hmm…. I can’t think of the last time I felt misunderstood!! I was feeling crabby earlier, probably due to my period, and there must be some overlap there!!

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  4. I believe we all feel misunderstood until we choose to understand without others. When I accepted not-knowing, understanding came to help me grow and I’ve come to understand that everyone experiences it.

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