Question of the day (9th August).

Hey people! πŸ™‚

I’ve found an interesting question online and thought I’d ask you:

Have you ever had anyone ask you, (How did you get so smart)? If so, how did you answer them?

My answer:

Oh yes, and that’s partly why I found this question interesting, haha. I get a lotof questions like this from people and I usually don’t really know how to react. My intelligence is one thing about myself I think I have a reasonably rational view on despite the AVPD thing and I do think I’m intelligent, I’ve always heard that I’m above average and I also feel this is true, also my brains are something that have helped me to cope in all sorts of situations and I’m so very grateful for being gifted in this area, but I also don’t know how it happened that I am “so” smart. People usually say that because they’re surprised that I know a lot of different things not everyone knows or that they wouldn’t expect me to know. So when people ask me such questions, I don’t know what to say because I just don’t know why it is how it is, other than it’s just is this way and that some people in my family are highly intelligent, and I also don’t know what kind of answer they expect. Is it supposed to be some sort of a bit odd compliment in the form of a rhetorical question? πŸ˜€ Or do they really want me to explain the whole process, or whatever? Also I really don’t want to sound like I’m bragging or something.

So how I usually respond is either saying something light along the lines of: “Oh really, did I?!” or “It’s because I never add lemon to hot tea so I probably don’t have that much alluminium in my brain” or that “It’s my grandad’s fault” or “I wonder about that too, y’know? My Mum says it’s a bit of a miracle” or “It’s because I trained my memory so well as a kid by learning all the name days in the calendar” etc. etc. or I get all confused and don’t say anything really, or I tell them seriously that I don’t know, but I read a lot as a kid and seem to have some weird ability to retain loads of information and have always had and am learning things quite quickly, at least some things. It depends on a situation, the other person and how I’m feeling, which approach I take.

The first time I remember I was asked a similar thing and that really made me think hard, was when I was at my classmate’s house for a few days, and her brother once asked me how it is that me, or his sister are quite smart, while some other blind kids are not and why (he was referring to another girl from our class who visited them earlier and who also had some mild intellectual disability and was a preemie and had other problems). And I was literally dumbstruck. I often wondered about similar things but now that someone has actually said this aloud, and asked me, I had to think about it seriously and figure it out somehow. I really wasn’t able to tell him something more insightful at the time, and I think it would be hard for anyone of any age because well, how do you explain why some people are smart and some aren’t, regardless of whether there are some disabilities at play or not. So I just told him something about that that girl was a preemie and I was not, and that my family at least on Mum’s side are smart people, and my Dad was teaching me things like capitals of countries and such when I was very little so maybe that was why my brain was quite well-developed. But I was thinking about it for a reeeally long time, and I don’t think my answer was satisfying for him, either.

Have you ever had similar situations or is it just me? πŸ˜€

8 thoughts on “Question of the day (9th August).”

  1. This is a bit different, but over the last several years, my grandma would often comment “oh, you’re so intelligent.” She’s got some dementia, so her perspective is rather skewed, but she’d say I was intelligent for knowing the route to drive to the restaurant we’ve been going to for years. For some reason, it bugged me, and I would always tell her “no, Grandma, that doesn’t require intelligence.”

    I don’t recall if anyone has ever actually asked me how I got to be so smart, but my answer would be that I just am. I can recognize that I’m smarter than the average person, but I have a hard time conceptualizing what it actually would feel like in my head to be closer to the 100 IQ average.

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    1. I suppose that for some reason it would bug me as well if someone would say I was intelligent because I knew the route to a restaurant, don’t know why actually but it would.
      Oh yeah, it’s hard for me too, to imagine what it would feel like having a more average intelligence, feels quite abstractive to think about in-depth.

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  2. I’ve had people tell me that over the years. Usually it’s a compliment or because they might know I read a lot and have a brain that keeps weird bits of trivia for ever. I used to be embarrassed about it, but now I simply say “Thanks.” and change the subject. Because I KNOW I’m not near as ‘smart’ (intelligent) as I like to think I am. Not even close. It’s all about the presentation I guess!

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  3. Here I am!

    That hasn’t happened since I was in high school, and the other kids thought I was some sort of straight-A-earning Brainiac. They’d see me on the schoolbus reading a paperback and think I was some sort of genius. In reality, I struggled quite a bit with science and social studies and had to scrape through with them all the way through college. But I had that “smart kid” look to me.

    But now, as an adult, it hasn’t happened to me in ages. I’m not sure what the deal is, but I’m differen in person than I am online. Online (and in my fiction writing), I express myself so well with writing. In person, I’m horribly inarticulate, and I struggle to complete a sentence without “losing” the word I wanted to use. I’d say it’s the side effects of my medicines, but it’s also the fact that I’m just really good at writing. If you were to meet me in person, I think I seem like someone else. I’ll occasionally speak with a big word, but mostly I can’t finish sentences, and I use “like” all the time. Huh.

    But I did ace the capitals quiz once! Speaking of how your parents taught you capitals, we had a map of Europe as a tablecloth. In high school, during Sunday school, the Sunday school teacher said as part of his lecture, “You might not know the capital of Hungary, but you can be assured of God’s love for you.” And I raised my hand and said, “Budapest!” and everyone was impressed. That was a very proud moment. Seriously, geography is one of my hardest subjects. I’m not even sure which continents major countries are in. It’s that bad.

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    1. I think I’m quite different in person vs online as well. And of course I can relate to expressing yourself better in writing. I don’t typically have a problem with finding words, but I’m definitely way more eloquent in writing, if the word eloquent can apply to writing at all, haha. And that’s especially true for English, lol.
      Hahaha, funny thing with the capital of Hungary. πŸ˜€ It’s funny with me and geography because I was always terrible at reading maps and have no spatial imagination, so theoretically I should be clueless but somehow I happen to have a fairly decent idea about where a lot of countries are and sometimes I can even say something coherent about where are some major cities in a country or similar things even though I have no practical idea how a country looks like. My Dad is excellent at geography stuff so it could be some explanation.

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