Question of the day.

Hi people! 🙂

Would you rather have a very talkative guest that won’t let you get a word in, or a very quiet guest who doesn’t say much at all?

My answer:

It depends on a few things. How well I know that person and how I feel around them. Whether I’m with them alone or are there other people, like my family members, also present there, so they could keep the conversation going. Whether we have a lot of topics to chat about. How interesting they are to me. My first instinct though would rather be to choose a very talkative guest, because if anything, I’m better at listening than keeping a conversation, and I would feel awkward with someone who doesn’t have much to say, and they would probably feel so even more. With a talkative person, I wouldn’t have to worry about having to talk much, and just listen, or with some people simply pretending that you listen is enough because they don’t seem to care if you actually are listening or not, they’ll be chatting away regardless. One of my favourite quotes, from The Blue Castle by L. M. Montgomery says: “If you can sit in silence with a person for half an hour and yet be entirely comfortable, you and that person can be friends. If you cannot, friends you’ll never be and you need not waste time in trying”. I have very few people like that in my life, even among those I feel generally relatively comfortable around, but one of those with whom I really do like sitting in silence for long stretches of time and we understand each other without words is my grandad. So, I’d be happy to have a quiet guest who wouldn’t say a word for their whole visit, but only such with whom we would both feel comfortable this way, or one whom I would know really well so I could talk to them freely and also make them talk about things they like to talk about.

What would you choose? 🙂

18 thoughts on “Question of the day.”

  1. Neither. My guests would be somewhere in the middle. The first choice of yours – the talker – isn’t listening (in my opinion) and the second choice of yours is too much like me – probably introverted. That conversation and visit (if we could visit with folks) would be brief and uncomfortable I’m betting. So I want someone who LISTENS to what I’m saying and engages with me, because I try to do the same for them. 🙂

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  2. That’s an interesting quote!! I wonder if it applies to me at all, because I’m never silent! 😀 I hum, I whistle, I sing… But granted, if anyone were to not be driven to distraction by that, then they’d be a true friend indeed! I’d probably lean toward the chatty friend option to remove any social awkwardness, like, “Hmm… what could we talk about next, pray tell?” I’m with you on that!! 😀

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      1. Oh my gosh, I know, right? AAAAAAAAAAUGH! It’s one reason I love interacting online but would be hard-pressed to talk to an internet friend on the phone.

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  3. As I love to have a mix of both, I’d say the measure of talkative is based on what they talk about. If they’re engrossed in negativity or themselves, I can’t handle it but if they’re positive and passionate, I welcome the energy.

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  4. Not too talkative, but a fairly talkative guest, because I will soon feel tired with lipreading while trying to listen with what I can hear.

    If I know someone well and like wise, they know me then I am comfortable sitting in the quiet.

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