Question of the day (15th August).

Hey guys! 🙂

I’m catching up on posts finally, so let’s catch up on some fun questions, as well. As you probably already know if you’re here, I’m hugely into names, so let’s focus on our names for a while. 🙂 My question for you is:

When another person says your name out loud, does it ever sound weird, to you?

My answer:

Generally not, but my previous name change and name dilemmas that I’d had complicate things slightly. My name is nothing unusual in Poland, so there are no issues like that people wouldn’t know how to pronounce it, especially that Polish is a phonetic language, and also we don’t have such a diversity of accents as there is in English so people sound pretty universal. However as you may know I’ve changed my name legally some years ago, and it took people some time to get used to it. And even though I felt like my name was my name much earlier than I changed it legally, and I was sometimes already going by it by then, I had to get used to using it all the time as well. I know for some people it was sort of weird at the beginning to call me Emilia, and, perhaps as a result, it sounded a bit weird to me in their mouth. Even my Mum, who really advised me to change it and who sometimes called me Emilia even before the official change. Sometimes people still get confused, my Dad still isn’t fuly over my name change, because he just doesn’t like changes that he doesn’t understand, and in his mouth Emilia always sounds a tiny bit sarcastic, which I don’t care about too much now. People used to mispronounce my name a lot after I changed it, they often called me Emila, which I hated, and still fiercely do! Not that Emila and Emilia are that very different, Emila can actually work as a diminutive of Emilia, though it is also a separate modern feminine form of Emil in its own right, but to me Emila and Emilia sound wildly different! I definitely don’t feel like an Emila, and there are so many better nicknames out there. People in Poland have a real need to nickname almost every possible name, so, especially at the beginning of my adventures with the name Emilia, they would just assume I must go by Emila in daily life, or would misread Emilia for Emila, or simply mispronounce. While I was using my birth name, I’d had already enough of people assuming which nicknames I like, and even people in my distant family, not to mention strangers, would automatically call me a nickname that made me feel like gritting my teeth every time I heard it. So obviously I couldn’t let the same situation happen with my new name, especially that I was already an adult and could decide myself on what I want and don’t want to be called. So I just conveniently used that argument that Emila is a name in its own right, and I am an Emilia. And everyone understood without a problem. I don’t have anything against nicknames, in fact I go by some nickname almost all the time in my everyday life, but it’s either Emi, Mila, Milka, or Emilka.

When I was using my birth name, in my perception, it always sounded weird, not because it was weird, but because it felt weird on me, and it still does sound weird when someone uses it occasionally. But I think I’ve already written on this topic and how it always made me feel ragin’ just because some innocent being was talking to me. 😀

So, what are your experiences? 🙂


5 thoughts on “Question of the day (15th August).”

  1. Oh my! You certainly cope with it better than I do! I have nightmares of people calling me M-word. It sounds offensive to me in every possible way. I’m not sure exactly why I started hating my birthname, but it was pronounced badly by my family. Like MAYYYY-gun. [Shudder.] No one could say an /e/ sound (like in “pet”); instead, it had to be a heavy /ae/ sound.

    I think–and this is weird–that my name aversion has something to do with the TV program Felicity. It aired for four full seasons from 1998 to 2002, and I watched it at that time. It captivated me. Felicity’s roommate was Meghan. She was a typical college goth student who was always piercing part of herself or mocking square, straightlaced Felicity. (Not really to a bullying extent.) Later in the show, they become friends. And then something happened in the last season that really upset me. I don’t know what. I was recently trying to rewatch Felicity, and I made it to the end of season 2, but then my Wii quit offering the Amazon Home Video option; and now I have no way to keep watching. Ever since it originally aired, I’ve never seen past season 2, but I think there’s something hidden in there that would explain my birthname aversion; because 2002 was the year I asked everyone to please call me Meg.

    How weird is that? I’d love to solve the mystery, but… alas.

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    1. Believe me, I have nightmares too! OK, now not so much as I used to, but… ugh. And I don’t know either why I hate my birth name and why it feels offensive to just hear it, other than I feel it doesn’t fit me and I didn’t like sharing the name with my aunt (when you can’t see who they’re speaking to and have other communication trouble it gets really tricky). It’s funny how both our birth names are forms of Margaret and we both hate them. 😀
      Aaaah, that’s awful! I actually really like Megan (and I like hardly any other Margaret names), but the ae sound in it is… uh… so out of place. It actually comes from the Welsh language and the Welshies certainly don’t pronounce it MAY-gun, but with the e as in pet.
      It indeed looks mysterious that your name aversion could have to do with “Felicity”. It’s really interesting how such things happen. But I feel like Meg fits you way better, so perhaps the M word just never felt like your name, same as it was with my M word. 😀

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  2. At one point I was thinking about going by my middle name, Leia. I decided to try it out in one of my classes, but it didn’t catch my attention right away when the teacher called me Leia.

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